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Man Abused As Child May Need To Confront It As Adult

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DEAR ABBY: I have been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for two years. He shared with me that he was sexually abused by a cousin for years as a child. He told me he has never disclosed it to anyone but me.

My boyfriend says he has come to terms with the abuse and his abuser, but I'm not sure it's true. He became really upset when he ...Read more

Struggling Sister Should Get Help And Get Going

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DEAR ABBY: I have a hard time differentiating between enabling and just helping out my sister. Throughout her adult life, even while she was married, she has never been able to make ends meet.

She's single now and in her 50s, a hardworking but underemployed, depressed individual. I have a good job and I feel guilty if I don't help her each ...Read more

Bed-Wetter Can Get Help But He Has To Make The Effort

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DEAR ABBY: I have a good friend who is a bed-wetter. It's obvious because he's constantly doing laundry and his home smells bad at times. We once shared a hotel room, and I was awakened in the middle of the night by a strong smell of urine.

He tries to hide his problem, but seems to be doing little if anything to find a solution for it. I want ...Read more

Daughter Shuts Door On Mom In Retaliation For Remarriage

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DEAR ABBY: I am 54. My daughter is 25 and married with two kids. Her dad and I have been divorced for almost 10 years. Three years ago, I met a wonderful man. After dating for about a year, we were married. It's been heavenly; I love my life.

My problem is my daughter. She's angry that I remarried. She told me she should be first in my life. ...Read more

Couple's Difference In Age Causes Girl's Family To Worry

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DEAR ABBY: I'm 17 and dating this older guy. Everyone is afraid that one day I'll just disappear, but he isn't like that. I know him from when I was younger, and my dad and his dad were really close. People just don't trust me, even though I have told them nothing but the full truth from the start. I'm happy. What should I do? -- MISUNDERSTOOD ...Read more

Admitted Hypochondriac Seeks A Cure For Her Fear Of Dying

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DEAR ABBY: I'm a hypochondriac. I am currently waiting on the biopsy results for a mole I had removed. Right now I'm worried and miserable. I feel guilty for what I'm putting my husband through. I want to get therapy, but doing that feels like admitting I'm too weak to handle my problems myself. My husband thinks he's a bad husband because he ...Read more

Sister Struggles To Reconcile Love For Brother And Her Faith

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DEAR ABBY: I am very excited to be proposing soon to the man I want to spend my life with. My family is excited for me -- with one exception. My younger sister, whom I want to be my best woman, says she doesn't know if she will be able to participate in our wedding because she's having trouble reconciling that her faith tells her same-sex ...Read more

Girlfriend's Business Contact Arouses Man's Suspicion

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DEAR ABBY: I'm a divorced man dating a divorcee, Sylvie, who is eight years younger. I recently learned she had an affair before we met, and it is affecting the way I see her.

The man she had the affair with is still married. I had an affair while I was married, and although I understand how affairs can happen, I don't condone them. It took me ...Read more

It's Best To Meet Online Crush On Woman's Familiar Ground

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DEAR ABBY: For the last five months I have been talking to a guy I met via a dating app. We live a few states apart and have yet to meet in person, but we communicate regularly.

With my tax refund this year, I'd like to do something for me. He suggested that I visit him. I don't get any red flags from him, and I'm sure I'd be 100 percent safe ...Read more

Family Dysfunction Allows Assaults To Go Unpunished

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DEAR ABBY: Thirty-five years ago, my wife was raped in her mother's home when she was a teenager. Eight years ago, my daughter was also raped at the age of 11 in the same home. My mother-in-law blames them both for having been raped. She told them if it did happen, they probably deserved it.

I don't understand this. How can someone take the ...Read more

First Cousins Look Forward To Growing Old As A Couple

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DEAR ABBY: I am a retired widower. After my wife died, my first cousin Julia invited me to visit her in Florida over the winter. She's seven years my junior, divorced, lives alone and is a successful Realtor. We had a good time during the two months I was there.

The next summer I invited Julia to my home. We had a great time together, but then ...Read more

Parents Who Preach Respect Don't Practice It Themselves

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DEAR ABBY: I am a 17-year-old girl and a senior in high school. My parents and I (more my mom and I) have struggled with the topic of respect for a long time. We had a discussion about this earlier today and it led to arguing and tears.

She constantly says, To earn respect, you must give it, and I agree 100 percent. The problem is, she doesn't ...Read more

In-Laws Demand Too Much Time From Hard-Working Son

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DEAR ABBY: My husband, Ed, and I are in our 40s. We both work, and Ed often puts in more than 60 hours a week. My in-laws, in their 60s, are both in good health, retired and well-off financially. They expect weekly gatherings unless they have other plans.

In warmer weather, my mother-in-law guilt-trips Ed into performing weekly chores ...Read more

Baby's Godmother Is Cut Off For Life After Simple Hello

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DEAR ABBY: When my friend became pregnant, her boyfriend didn't stick around to be in the baby's life. The three of us had gone to school together, and they started dating years later. When she asked me to be the child's godmother, I said yes. The baby is 5 months old now.

While I was out at a bar recently, I ran into the boyfriend. My friend ...Read more

Married Woman Can't Resist When Lover Wants To Meet

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DEAR ABBY: I'm a 36-year-old woman who is in a loveless marriage. We do not spend time together, nor do we have sex. For the past four years I have had an on-again, off-again affair with a guy from my church. He's 10 years younger and everything I have ever wanted.

My No. 1 problem is that I know adultery is wrong and goes against everything I ...Read more

Strangers' Parenting Advice May Deserve Consideration

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DEAR ABBY: What do I say to people who give me unsolicited parenting advice or scold my daughter in public? I would never interfere with another parent or direct a child who isn't in my care. What gives these people the right to barge into someone else's life in such a way?

I have been chastised for letting my daughter sit on the floor while ...Read more

Wife Of Hypercritical Husband Must Create Her Own Space

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DEAR ABBY: My husband is extremely critical of others. He almost never has anything nice to say about anyone. He badmouths his co-workers, friends, family members and strangers. We don't have friends anymore because he doesn't want to be around them. I don't understand his type of personality.

He thinks his way of thinking and doing things is ...Read more

Stepchildren Engineer Divorce To Cut Off Elderly Dad's Wife

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DEAR ABBY: I'm writing this as a warning -- especially to older women who get married a second time to someone with adult children. Please keep your own money separate, if at all possible.

Throughout our long marriage, I trusted my second husband to do what he promised me and my relatives. He arranged very good financial care for me in the ...Read more

Spanking Crosses The Line During Sibling Roughhousing

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DEAR ABBY: My grandson Kyle is in his early 20s, 6 foot 1 and weighs about 230. His sister is a very sweet 15-year-old and a devoted churchgoer.

At a recent family get-together, they were goofing around and he got her down on the floor on her stomach, sat on her knees to hold her down, and proceeded to reach his hand into her trousers to jerk ...Read more

Refuge After Parents' Divorce Turns Into A Prison For Teen

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DEAR ABBY: I'm 17 and have been in a relationship since I was 13 with the same person on and off. I have been with him since my parents divorced, so you might say he's been my crutch for a long time.

He makes it clear that without him I am an emotional mess. I spend every day isolated from friends and family, while he spends his time with his ...Read more

 

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